People are spilling the teas and I'm not mad about it. Just like looking for red-flags while dating, I think it's just important to look for the same red-flags in friendships! We've all had the one friend that feels draining to be around... well people are telling it all on Reddit...
There’s nothing better than the love and support you get from a good friend, but not every friend has your best interests at heart. Unfortunately for some, it isn’t always easy to tell whether someone you know will wind up being a true friend, but now folks are sharing signs that may give you a clue about their true intentions.
It all started when someone on Reddit posed the question, “What is a non-obvious red flag in a friendship?,” with plenty of folks chiming in on what to look out for.
Friendship red flags include:
- "Always one-upping. This doesn’t refer to sharing their own story in response to yours — that’s pretty normal. It’s more about how you can never have the focus remain on you, it always becomes about them."
- “Asking you for stuff all the time."
- "Treating you differently when you’re around other people — acting embarrassed, disgusted, condescendingly, reserved…on’t stick your necks out for someone who wouldn’t even lift a pinky for you."
- "When it feels as though you do all the giving, and they do all the taking."
- "When they can't keep plans consistent. If they're consistently last-minute dropping/changing plans, then it's a sign that you're their second-best option. You're their backup if nothing else is better."
- “Plans always have to be whatever they want, and they get sulky if you want to do something you enjoy."
- "You get nervous and have to be really careful what you say because anything can set them off."
- "Gossiping about others to you. If they do this, there's a 99% chance that they'll gossip about you behind your back."
- "They have another group of friends you’re never invited to hang out with, even though you invite them to hang out with your other friend groups."